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- Would you like a happier, healthier relationship with your spouse?
- Do you want open and honest communication with your partner?
- Do you want your children to feel emotionally secure in a family that settles differences in a constructive manner?
I Have the Knowledge, Skills and Experience to Help You Reach These Goals.
When a couple seeks counseling their communication is typically stalled in a negative loop. Despite good intent, discussions turn into hurtful arguments that damage the relationship. I will facilitate respectful discussions between you and your spouse so that you can work together to solve the difficult issues you bring to therapy.
I Lead Safe, Structured Sessions.
Partners speak respectfully without accusation or blame. They practice attentive, empathic listening and acknowledging the other person's point of view.
I work to create a zone of emotional safety in which each partner can express his or her feelings and perspective. Each can speak without interruption, criticism or rebuttal.
Together We Identify Triggers and Negative Loops.
We all have triggers and vulnerabilities. However, when partners mutually trigger each other, they start to spiral into negative feedback loops of escalating arguments or stony silences. Analyzing and naming these mutual triggers makes it possible to reshape communication and avoid disrespectful downward spirals.
What Were the Circumstances Each Person Experienced Growing Up?
More often than not husband and wife grew up in very different families and have very different expectations of family life. These expectations reside out of awareness as unquestioned assumptions.
Frequently one or both partners grew up in stressful, difficult circumstances and developed survival strategies to cope with that environment.
Exploring unspoken expectations and survival strategies always yields important keys to unlocking a stalled relationship.
I Help You Set Goals for Change and Work With You to Develop a Relationship That Works
Unhealthy patterns have evolved over time and it takes time to shift to a more healthy give and take. We will practice new behaviors and de-brief relapses into dysfunctional interaction.
Benefits
- Feeling more connected and cherished.
- Better ability to problem-solve together.
- Return of emotional intimacy in an atmosphere of mutual respect and concern.
- Children breathe a sigh of relief when their parents aren't fighting.
Articles
Read brief Articles that I've written to give you a better idea of what to expect in treatment. Also, there are links to instructive and inspiring video clips on the internet.
Call me at 860-424-1051 to schedule an appointment.
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Afternoon and evening times available.
Insurance accepted.
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